The process of becoming a member of the Jewish people is well established. We ask that you follow these steps in your journey to full membership within the Jewish people:
Most of the above steps are discussed in more detail, below.
Mazal tov! Congratulations! A mix of excitement and anxiety is quite normal. If you and your sponsoring rabbi decide that the Sandra Caplan Community Bet Din is best for you, we will be glad to help you. Ask your rabbi to get in touch with us.
A bet din for conversion is a panel that is made up of three committed Jewish leaders. Here at the Community Bet Din, this means three rabbis, one of whom is your sponsoring rabbi. The Bet Din’s panel will meet with you to authorize your conversion to Judaism.
Click here to apply online. Submit it to our office 4–8 weeks prior to when you hope to formalize your conversion. (Your sponsoring rabbi will contact us to schedule the actual meeting date.)
Meeting with the Bet Din’s panel is an opportunity for you to discuss your decision to become a Jew. Most of all, the three rabbis on the panel would like to be sure that you are converting freely, and that you understand what it means to live as a Jew. (We don’t expect you to be an expert on Judaism; we do expect you to be committed to continuing to learn — because we view that as part of “what it means to live as a Jew.”)
Yes, but it rarely happens. It’s rare because our coordinator has worked with your sponsoring rabbi in advance, in order to ensure that you are truly ready. As a result, the panel of rabbis will always display a welcoming attitude.
Generally, the next — and final — step is to immerse yourself in a ritually appropriate (“kosher”) pool of water. Under certain conditions, a lake or the ocean can be used. However, we strongly prefer a specially designed facility called a mikveh. (A mikveh offers a more controlled experience that assures everyone’s safety and modesty.)
Another traditional approach — which some of our sponsoring rabbis prefer — is for the candidate to immerse in the mikveh first, and then to meet with the Bet Din panel as the final step.
For you, the order of rites will be according to your sponsoring rabbi’s choice.
Yes, that is the usual arrangement. Our coordinator sets it up with the Mikveh at the American Jewish University (AJU), in the Bel Air neighborhood of Los Angeles.
Typically, you would rendezvous with your sponsoring rabbi in the Mikveh’s foyer. You would then meet with our Bet Din panel in a nearby room. Afterward, you would return to the Mikveh for your immersion if authorized by the Bet Din. Together the two rites — Bet Din and mikveh — generally take less than two hours.
Alternatively, you may meet with the Bet Din in a different place and go to the mikveh on the same or another day.
A few weeks before your appointment, our Bet Din coordinator will send you instructions; and the AJU Mikveh staff is available to answer questions in advance.
The “Introduction to Judaism” programs in our area often include a visit to the AJU Mikveh. But if you haven’t visited the facility prior to your appointment, it will begin with a tour.
In any event, the Mikveh administrator will teach you what to do. She will help you with the prayers and enable you to immerse in a modest, comfortable, and meaningful way. She will also supervise to ensure that your immersion is ritually proper. Most people experience their immersion as a deeply moving spiritual event.
Most sponsoring rabbis will ask for compensation for their teaching and/or tutoring toward meeting our educational requirements. They cannot accept compensation for serving as your sponsoring rabbi per se.
The other two rabbis who serve on our Bet Din panel are volunteers.
None of the participating rabbis can make their endorsement conditional upon your making donations or payments aside from the following.
Our Bet Din charges an administration fee of $190. A portion of our income from these fees is used to offset the cost for other candidates in need.
The fee for use of the AJU’s Community Mikveh is $125.
Men and boys are able to join the covenant of the Jews with God in a special way through ritual circumcision. (Jewish male babies are circumcised eight days after birth — health permitting — as the centerpiece of a rite, in the presence of Jewish witnesses.) In this way, we Jews follow the ancient sacred commandment given to our father Abraham when he undertook a covenant with his deity.
There is a ceremony for you, called hattafat dam b’rit. Typically, you meet with a trained specialist called a mohel, who is also a medical doctor. He uses a small lancet to bring to the surface less than a drop of blood, at the site of your circumcision.
Some candidates prefer to perform this rite on themselves, while a Jewish adult serves as a witness.
This rite is considered as a symbolic re-circumcision. The mohel or witness then attests that it was performed for the sake of your entering the covenant as a Jew.
For more information, see here.
You will have to be ritually circumcised. This is done by a urologist, with anesthetic, in a medical clinic or hospital. It is accompanied by specific blessings, which typically are said by your sponsoring rabbi or by a trained specialist known as a mohel. These blessings establish that you are entering the covenant as a Jew. The surgery site is fully healed after a month (assuming that there are no complications).
Perhaps you are living as a man yet do not have male genitalia (as most people would define them). Or perhaps you are not living as a man yet do have male genitalia (as most people would define them). If so, please know that we are committed to finding a way that respects both your gender identity/expression/body image and the Jewish commitment to God’s covenant with Abraham. We will work with your sponsoring rabbi to determine what is best in your case.
We rely upon the written attestation of a Jewish witness, which is usually the mohel. Typically that attestation is in the form of a certificate. It’s best if you convey a copy of it to our Bet Din coordinator prior to your appointment. In any case, we ask that you bring the original with you when you meet with the Bet Din panel.
Yes, it is not uncommon for a child to accompany a parent in the conversion process. However, children under the age of 13 are handled a bit differently, because they are not considered able to freely make an informed choice.
Yes, if you are the biological mother.
Individual rabbis who are members of our Bet Din may give different answers to this question. However, regarding someone whose (biological) father was Jewish, or who was adopted as a child by Jewish parents, the “highest common denominator” answer is:
What’s needed is that you go through the same outward ritual process as someone who was not raised as a Jew.
Granted, at first glance the term “conversion” may not be a good fit for you. We respect that your present sense of identity may already be fully Jewish. Yet in your situation we tend to use the term “conversion” anyway — while not taking it so literally. That’s because the outward process is virtually the same, in order for you to achieve Jewish status in the eyes of all of our member rabbis.
You will receive two conversion certificates: one in English and one in Hebrew. You will also receive a separate attestation of your immersion in a mikveh. The rabbis of the Bet Din panel will have signed all these documents.
Our Bet Din keeps a paper copy of these certificates in a fireproof safe, and a digital copy is archived, as well.
Conservative, Reconstructionist, Reform, and transdenominational rabbis will accept you as a Jew. At this time, few Orthodox rabbis will accept any conversion other than those that they or their Orthodox colleagues authorize.
The Israeli government (Ministries of Absorption and of the Interior) will recognize your conversion, so that you will be accepted as a citizen if you wish to make aliyah (move to Israel).
Conservative and Reform congregations in Israel will be delighted to welcome you into their midst.
At this time, the official religious and rabbinic authority in Israel (the state-sponsored Rabbinate) will not accept you as a Jew. Unfortunately, they do not recognize our authority as rabbis. This means that in Israel, you will not be able to marry or divorce or be buried as a Jew.
Our standards reflect the “highest common denominator” of the concerns of the CCAR, RA, RRA, and AJRCAA. Our policies are set by our board of governors, which includes representatives of all four rabbinical organizations. Questions of application are addressed to our Av Bet Din (and, when further input seems warranted, to our S’gan Av Bet Din).
What we do includes:
We provide you with trained rabbinic colleagues who are eager to serve on a panel that meets with your candidates. They will come to the venue of your choosing (among the various options that we make available).
We provide you with relevant resources and help to keep you on track. The net effect is to increase your capacity to work with conversion candidates — or to invest your valuable time in other ways.
Each one of our dayanim is empowered to represent the other 140 or so member rabbis. Our auspices make a symbolic statement that the convert is becoming part of a Jewish people that is much wider than your synagogue or their spouse’s family.
We bring you into contact with colleagues from outside your circle — rabbis whom you might not otherwise see very often, or even meet.
Generally, our panel meets with the candidate in one of three types of venue (listed in decreasing order of frequency):
Our website includes a resource page that features the following categories:
For Sponsoring Rabbis
For Other Dayanim
Consultation via phone or email with our coordinator and/or our Av Bet Din has proven valuable to many of our members.
In-service training in recent years has consisted of a highly regarded, 4-hour-long, bienniel yom iyun.
Our meeting with candidates typically begin by offering them an opportunity to recount their decision to become a Jew. We also ensure that they are converting freely, and that they understand what it means to live as a Jew. We don’t expect them to be an expert on Judaism; however, we do expect them to be committed to continuing to learn. We avoid trick questions.
Typically a member of the panel will explore the candidate’s relationship to touchstones such as Shabbat and kashrut. We expect the candidate to say that “Shabbat is a special day for me (and my family) in the following ways” or “My Jewish way of eating is as follows.” We expect them have some exposure to, and respect for, traditional practices, even if they are not following them at this time.
When a candidate is accepted, the session closes with his/her reading aloud of our “Declaration of Jewish Commitment.”
Yes, but it rarely happens. It’s rare because our coordinator has worked with the sponsoring rabbi in advance, in order to ensure that the candidate is truly ready.
We have been working closely together, to ensure that the sessions run smoothly. Our usual arrangement is for the candidate’s meeting with the Bet Din and the Mikveh immersion to be completed during the same appointment.
The Mikveh staff also coordinates payment arrangements with us.
Our Bet Din provides a handy opportunity for you to take part in the rites of conversion. These moments can be among the most gratifying of a rabbi’s career!
No. Sponsor your candidate under our auspices whenever it seems best for that particular candidate, and for your own situation at the time. You may legitimately decline to use this bet din, preferring instead to use your movement’s Bet Din, or one that you yourself convene.
Our Bet Din does not in and of itself discourage the operation of any other bet din in the region, or question its legitimacy or authority.
Our orientation/training lasts 90 minutes. It covers our approach and our policies and procedures. You will also learn a bit about our administrative and governance structure.
There is no charge to join, nor for our initial training.
We do ask that our members be willing to sit on a panel once a year, as volunteers. (Even so, we understand that a few of our members have work or other commitments that temporarily preclude their serving with us, or that they may live too far away from the AJU for their regular participation to be worthwhile.)
We send out an annual appeal for donations. Your participation in that campaign is optional. However, many of our members do choose to support our organization financially.
Here is what we ask each member to sign upon joining us: Letter of Agreement
Yes. We do so in order to ensure that the rites of passage are meaningful and uplifting.
Example of discipline: we asked a colleague not to denigrate Orthodox Judaism in her remarks to a candidate.
Another example of discipline: we asked a colleague to dress less informally, so as to honor the candidate’s journey to Judaism.
Example of rejection: we asked a colleague not to participate any longer in our panels, after he repeatedly insisted on asking trick questions — and using them as a pretext to deliver a mini-sermon.
We require that our dayanim remain members in good standing of the Board of Rabbis of Southern California, to ensure that they are able to receive ethical oversight via their professional rabbinic associations.
Regarding someone whose (biological) father was Jewish, or who was adopted as a child by Jewish parents, our “highest common denominator” answer is:
We ask them to go through the same outward ritual process as someone who was not raised as a Jew.
We respect that their present sense of identity may already be fully Jewish. Yet in such situations we tend to use the term “conversion” anyway — while not taking it so literally. That’s because the outward process is virtually the same, in order for the person to achieve Jewish status in the eyes of all of our member rabbis.
We provide two conversion certificates — one in English and one in Hebrew — as well as a folder to keep them in.
Our Bet Din keeps a paper copy of these certificates in a fireproof safe, and a digital copy is archived, as well. Additional copies are provided to the sponsoring rabbi for their own files or digital archiving, as requested.
The Bet Din has met the standards promulgated by governing bodies of the Conservative, Reconstructionist, Reform and transdenominational movements (the RA, RRA, CCAR, and AJRCAA).
At this time, few Orthodox rabbis will accept any conversion other than those that they or their Orthodox colleagues authorize.
Payment of our administration fee means that you are contributing to the functioning of our Bet Din.
No refund of our administration fee is available within 7 days of your scheduled Bet Din session. (Reason: Nearly all of our staff’s effort on your behalf has already been expended by that point.)
Likewise, the AJU Community Mikveh assesses a fee of $50 if you cancel your appointment less than 7 days in advance. An exception may be made in unforeseeable circumstances such as unusual menstruation or a sudden death in the family. (Reason: Late cancellations make it unlikely that someone else can take your slot, which leaves the Mikveh underutilized.)
If the payment of our standard fees would be a financial hardship for you, please inform your sponsoring rabbi, who will contact us on your behalf to discuss alternative arrangements.
Pay Both Fees Now
Our Bet Din office can collect your payment of the mikveh fee. We do so on behalf of the AJU Community Mikveh (Shown left). This is meant as a convenience to you. (Alternatively, the mikveh fee may be paid at the time of service via cash, check, or credit/debit card.)
Via Credit Card or Debit Card, or from Your PayPal Account
This button is pre-set for a $305 total for both fees. (You do not need a PayPal account in order to use it. Financing is available, subject to credit approval.)
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Click this button not only for online payment, but also for info about paying by check for our fee. Use this option if your t’vilah (immersion) will take place in another body of water than the AJU Mikveh.
Via Credit Card or Debit Card, or from Your PayPal Account
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